Why do people hate us?

Don't you feel there are coworkers out there who simply hate you - no matter what you have or have not done! You have tried everything you can - being ultra-friendly, buying them lunch, praising them for their great work... - and none of that worked. They are always cold, even borderline mean.

There are times when you start doubting yourself... "Is it because I don't know enough, so I don't command their respect?" "Is it because I'm a woman?" "Is it because I'm Asian (or Hispanic or too tall or too blonde)?" Basically... is it me?

It's tough dealing with coworkers who hate you for no reasons... But even tougher dealing with your own self-esteem. There's a point when your self-doubt make you angry not only at your coworkers - but yourself!

This is what I have personally experienced - that works: there are basically 3 ways to deal with these people. 1. Continue to be ultra-nice to them - make it like a game for yourself! If that person always make some nasty remarks about your ideas, challenge yourself and see how many days/months/years it takes to get that person finally acknowledge you have a good idea or two! 2. Move up the organization chart! Become that person's boss - and he/she will HAVE to be just a little bit nicer to you! 3. Be grateful you are NOT as mean as that person! You can still retain your self-respect - and respect for others!

posted by Office Buddies Day at 10:36 PM